Tiny Advice: Fedora for WordPress

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Tiny Advice: Fedora for WordPress

My friend invented an app that allows you to post on WordPress on the go. I have been uploading my tiny posts with it for a while and like it when I take pictures on my phone and can immediately upload them.

It’s free on google play so feel free to try it to upload posts on your blog!

In other news, baby birds are learning to fly by their parents in my garden! If you own a garden, watch your head; they fly low and have no direction!

Tiny Tutorial: How to Express Your Opinion

Being truthful to yourself is vital, but being truthful to others can be quite painful. People don’t always want to hear your opinion (even if that is the truth), so here is a tutorial on how to avoid being a dick, while still maintaining your integrity. A few questions you can ask yourself before opening your mouth and speaking that opinion that is right on your tongue:

1. Ask yourself, is it necessary to express your opinion? What will happen when you state your opinion? When your friend or boyfriend or girlfriend comes home completely happy with new clothes, puts them on and asks you whether you like them, it’s not necessary to say that you don’t like them. After all, what will they gain by knowing your opinion? They obviously like the clothes, so it will only result in crushing their self-esteem. I personally hate people who bluntly tell me the truth: how is it going to help me to know they think my hair looks awful today? It doesn’t. If your opinion is going to help the other person in life or in that moment, you should say it. If your opinion is only going to make them feel hurt and not help them, keep it to yourself.

2. Ask yourself, how can you phrase your opinion so that it doesn’t hurt the other person? Whenever stating your opinion, it is a good idea to phrase it in such a way that the other person does not feel offended or hurt. There are many ways of telling people how you feel or what the truth is that don’t require you saying things bluntly to their face. How do you do this? Stating your opinion can definitely help other people, so don’t be afraid to do it when it’s necessary! But stating your opinion in such a way that it is constructive and not destructive is a delicate art. Here are a few tips that can help you phrase your opinion:

Ask ignorant questions. Acting as if you don’t know about something often helps. When I was confronted with someone gloriously talking about Twilight, I had difficulties containing myself because I don’t like the books nor the movies. However, that person did and it was annoying me that they were speaking about it as if it was as good as The Lord of the Rings, so I wanted to point out to them what was wrong with it. I didn’t, however, put this in an aggressive way, because I asked them “Isn’t it true that the movies often have long pauses with no dialogue or music and that makes it incredibly slow?” and “But what about that part where an old guy falls in love with a baby?” and “I heard the book was very repetitive?”. This way, I did not attack the person, but I did mention everything that I thought was wrong with the whole concept (I admit, I asked a dozen more questions). I didn’t create a hostile atmosphere, however, so I didn’t ruin our friendship.

Cushion the blow. Don’t say things straight to someone’s face, dress them up a little. Instead of saying you hate something, say you had no particularly good feelings for it. You don’t “hate” it when people think songs are famous because they were in Glee, you don’t particularly like that. Of course when you are with other people who hate it as well, feel free to express your hatred, but to avoid incredible arguments and stating your negative opinion to others, you can just put it delicately. There will always be people who hate stuff and people who like it a lot, and neither benefit much from knowing the other’s opinion in their face. If you subtly phrase your opinion, people are less likely to be insulted or offended by it and more likely to agree or at least value it.
To conclude, I would like to state that I don’t think Facebook should have a dislike button that everyone keeps asking for, because (this will sound quite soft) there are already enough places on the internet where you can dislike things together.

Tiny wisdom of the week

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Tiny wisdom of the week

The effects of meditation are not tiny, but doing it every now and then is not as big an effort as many people think! Meditation is technically simply conscious and chosen relaxation. It is easier than you might think, simply choose to relax for a moment, or for a while, by focusing on taking deep breaths.

It is about letting your stress go and just relaxing.

Daily meditation is the best. Here, it is possible to leave the moment and just be where the mind is clear, but blank. Whatever happens, whether you cry, smile or fall asleep, this is fine. Meditation is something that is just for you. There is no right or wrong behavior when meditating.

Take a moment every day to come to yourself and reach proper relaxation, and you will find yourself filled with more joy and less stress.

For more info, look here. The picture can be found here. Anyone who would like some music for meditation, this is my current favorite to relax with.

Some tiny wisdom to remember

A little bit of tiny wisdom to help you feel better:

“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves” – Buddha.

Having all kinds of bad thoughts doesn’t make you feel better. When you worry about something, it doesn’t necessarily make it easier to solve, it only fills your head with this issue. This doesn’t mean that thinking about a problem won’t help you solve it, but it means that to think too much about it doesn’t necessarily make it better.

42Art by Alex Noriega.

So let’s start thinking about happy and nice things, and we will start feeling nice and happy.

5 tiny things that could improve your life

Feeling down or unmotivated lately? Try these 5 tiny things that could make you feel better!

Don’t hit the snooze button. The few hours before you wake up, you primarily have REM sleep, where you dream a lot. These few hours allow you to process the events of the preceding day before you wake naturally. If you set your alarm, say, half an hour earlier, you will cut into this process and this, research has indicated, can damage your mental function during the day. So if you want your brain to be proactive during the day, you should try to set your alarm right after 8 hours of sleep and then wake up. This may also include going to bed earlier.

Don’t know how? Try this!

Name something you like about yourself every day. This may sound corny, but there is always something people dislike about themselves. Whether this is their insecurity or their fat ankles, people will name the strangest things that others will not even have noticed. Once you start reversing this process, you will notice that you will start liking yourself more and more. Do you like your hair but hate your nose? Start focusing on how much you love your hair instead of how much you’d like your nose to be different. Eventually you won’t even care about how your nose looks, or you will actually start loving its shape!

Smile at people. Not only will this make you feel better, but you will see that people start paying more attention to you, start giving you extras and in general provide more positive reactions.

Don’t know how to smile? Try holding a pencil between your teeth!

Don’t dwell on past experiences. Alex Noriega said “thinking too much about a problem won’t necessarily make it easier to solve”. The same thing goes for your past. It’s the past, not the present. You did something wrong and all you can do now is hope people forgive you because you are human, and learn from your mistakes so you don’t do them again. Another side of this is melancholia. Although you may desperately want to go back to an earlier time when you were on holiday, lived in another country, or had another lover, this is not the present. You simply are no longer there so it’s pointless to want to go back. How about instead of wanting to go back, you try to make your life more interesting now? Be content with who you are now, or make the move to change it in the future.

Go outside. OK this last one may sound stupid considering I am blogging this from a laptop inside a house, but this really helps. Of course I am not suggesting you go outside in the pouring rain or during a blizzard, but going for a walk outside after rain, after snow, or in pleasant weather conditions really helps. Not only is going on a walk good for your body, it is also vital for your happiness and skin as natural Vitamin D is not inside, but outside. So whenever you see the sun popping out, take an early break and go for a walk to sniff the fresh air!